Life was unbearable-I made the decision within myself to limit and stop communicating. What was the point- whenever I spoke the response I was greeted with-was always with burning anger and sheer contempt at me for daring to give air to my voice. I would question to myself, “What is the point to my life?… Continue reading 12 Months
Delighted to be shining a light on Lis Hoyte-Life coach, Author and Certified Speaker. Lis is a teacher by profession with a passion for speaking and teaching. Lis own lived experience brought Lis to writing “Break Free” a transformational journey a paradigm shift out of coercive control was published in July 2021 to help women… Continue reading Spotlight on…Lis Hoyte
Delighted to be shining a light on Min Grob founder of CCChat magazine. Min is a campaigner raising awareness of coercive control, following her own lived-experience and is the founder of CCChat Magazine- a free online magazine on and around coercive control. She started organising conferences in 2015, started the magazine in 2017 and also… Continue reading Spotlight on…Min Grob
At 36 I stood looking at the reflection of myself in the mirror. I had a noticeable circular bald patch at the right side of my head, my eyebrows barely hanging in there my eyelashes had all but gone. My pale complexion even paler highlighted the darkness beneath my eyes. Staring back at myself I… Continue reading Who am I?
Everyone at some point will have experienced fear. Fear of failing to achieve something you have dreamt of doing. Fear of not speaking out about something you are passionate about. Fear of not asking your manager for a pay increase or that long awaited promotion you have been working hard towards. Fear of the unknown,… Continue reading Triggered by social distancing & isolation during Covid-19
If you have been affected by Domestic Abuse you know how isolating it feels. With the current situation of Covid-19 self distancing and isolation we can feel further isolated. Every Friday at 3pm I am hosting via zoom (virtual) Afternoon tea at the Sofa ( a women only space-for women affected by domestic abuse) For… Continue reading (Virtual) Afternoon Tea at the Sofa..hosted by Stella Eden.
So I thought. Immediately after I had escaped the constant stream of text messages and voicemails reminding me it was all my fault. All I wanted was to move on with my life. It was clear Damian did not want me to have a life and he wasn't prepared to lose his power and control.… Continue reading It’s all over
Unhappy and exhausted- I'd hardly slept in 5 years this was one of many punishments for my many failings It could be not asking for permission to turn a light on, speaking too quietly, breathing too loud, failing to complete one of 60 errands to be done in a week. The more I tried- the… Continue reading 5 Steps
Driving the car on my own was the only time I would get to listen to the radio, hear the music that I loved and the familiar voice of the radio presenter discussing a wide range of different topic's during their slot on the radio. On this day I got delayed which resulted in not… Continue reading I heard it on the radio
After 18 years I slumped to the floor in an exhausted heap. Thinking what has my life become, constantly adapting to the growing demands of a volcano that would erupt several times a day if they were not met or to their liking. Who would remind me constantly throughout the day of my many failings… Continue reading The missing jigsaw piece
One hand over their mouth, eyes closed tightly whilst their other hand waves frantically signalling to stop this conversation dead in it's tracks before it goes any further. The fear of acknowledging this could be happening in an area where the live. This is one of many responses I have had and what caused this?… Continue reading Was it something I said?